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Rebound Relationship – Getting Him Back after He Rebounds

Friday, March 5th, 2010

After a few weeks of working to overcome the pain and emotion of a breakup you feel like you’re completely ready to follow through with your plan to get your ex back.  You’ve spruced up your wardrobe and are now chic.  Then, with crushing despair, you see him opening the door for another woman.  Your chances of getting him back are over, right?  Not necessarily.  He might just be on the rebound.

How is this good news?  Your ex isn’t going to be able to jump straight into another serious relationship, not so soon after just leaving you.  Breakups generally mean some amount of trust has been broken.  It’s hard to open yourself up to trust another person with your heart when you’re so tender and bruised from the last person you were with.  Your ex had feelings for you and cared about you.  Even if he says he stopped loving you, he still cares about you and your welfare.  He might just be out for the night for an opportunity to start healing again and the fact that he’s showing he’s ready to start putting trust in someone again can be a good sign for you.  Not to mention, if this is a rebound, he’s likely not serious about this other girl.

A rebound is generally not a serious relationship.  This doesn’t mean you have permission to sabotage your ex’s date—that will only make him resent you more.  However, being on a date means he’ll be looking for characteristics that interest him.  You already know you have those traits he likes and if this other girl doesn’t, he might just think back and wish that she had what you had.

Rebound relationships don’t last long.  In fact, it’s just a measure your ex is taking to start stretching his trust level again.  That’s a good sign for you if you want to get him back.  You can start squeezing more of your influence into his decision by showing how you’ve changed: both physically and mentally.

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He’s With a Woman Now – Are We Finished?

Sunday, November 1st, 2009

So many people flee from one relationship right into another.  Everybody’s heard about being on the rebound.  It makes the end of your relationship seem truly final to see your ex already settled with someone else.  But is that really true?  You’ll be surprised – and heartened – to know that your partner’s rebound might rebound them straight back to you. How?

In some ways a breakup feels easier to handle if you both come out of it alone. There’s balance and a feeling of suspension. You’ve both lost something but you’re both still in the same place. However, if you see him with someone else almost immediately, it’s only natural for you to feel that you’ve been left behind for good. 

The truth is more complicated because in most cases a relationship on the rebound is not really a relationship at all.  It’s a substitute, a response to feelings of withdrawal. Suddenly deprived of one of the most important relationships in his life, your ex needs something that feels and looks the same.

But it can’t be the same because it doesn’t include you. He will overcompensate; he will try everything in his power to convince himself that the new woman in his life can take your place. But the more he tries, the more he’ll compare her to you and on your side; you have a shared history and all the things he ever loved about you.

Stick around. Bide your time. Keep yourself accessible. There’s every chance the moment will come when he fully realizes his mistake and that’s when you can make your move. Your revived relationship may emerge stronger than ever.

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Rebound Relationship- Can I Still Get My Ex Back?

Monday, September 14th, 2009

What do I do if my ex finds someone else? Is it too late for me to get my ex back?  Should I just move on even though I’m still in love? The answers to these questions are as follows:

Suppose if your ex finds someone else (especially during the rebound phase of a relationship breakup), it’s likely he/she is just lonely and wanted someone to share their time with. The trial of being single is difficult because you’re used to having someone with you nearly all the time. When your ex is sitting at home alone, he/she is going to feel lonely. This can be a good thing because it means you filled a void when the two of you had been together.

It’s not necessarily too late if your ex is dating again. It’s likely your ex is just dating around trying to find someone suitable to his/her needs. If it looks like your ex is seriously dating someone, it may just be a rebound to fill the void left when you two broke up. It’s not too late if you play your cards right.

Be subtle but be around. Let your ex know you’re happy for him/her, but you can still show your ex what he/she is missing out on. A rebound relationship is often a good way for your ex to get some perspective back. However, if your ex is in a serious relationship again, you should be happy for your ex, isn’t he/she getting what you wanted in the first place: happiness? Only in cases of your ex being in a serious relationship should you move on. However, even if your ex’s new relationship isn’t to the serious point yet, you may want to know how your ex feels before secretly wishing you could ruin his/her new chances.

Take it easy and don’t let your ex’s need for a companion worry you so much. Focus on yourself and who you want to become and you might just become the person you were before when your ex first fell in love with you.

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Rebound Relationships: Why They Work To Your Advantage

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

It can be difficult to muster up the courage to get over a heartbreak and win your ex back. It’s even more difficult when you see your ex with someone else. You think that there is no way to win them back. After all, they are with someone else. How can you compete with their new flame? Do you even have a chance of winning them back?

Believe it or not, that new relationship they are in is called a rebound relationship and yes, you can hold on to some hope that you can win your ex back. Rebound relationships aren’t as bad as people make them out to be. While you do have to see your ex with someone other than you, you should know that most rebound relationships do not work out. It’s very rare that these relationships do. In fact, you should encourage your ex to have his or her rebound relationship while you do the same.

Why should you encourage a rebound relationship? Consider that only five percent of rebound relationships work out, you have a 95 percent chance of winning your ex back. People, even ones who did the breaking up, want someone to care for them. A rebound relationship is that answer to the loneliness a person has. Keep in mind that each person the melted down relationship is going to suffer, not just the one who was dumped. Your ex may have thought he or she was doing what was best for them but they may not feel that way in a week or so and a rebound relationship is their way to deal with it all.

When your ex is with someone else, they may start to miss all the things that made your relationship special. They may miss how you smiled or how you laughed, the little things that they took for granted. It may make your ex realize that things with you weren’t near as bad as they originally thought.

Being with someone new can allow your ex to compare the two relationships and make them realize that they made a mistake. They’ll be wondering if there is anyway to win you back.

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Why Rebound Relationships Work In Winning Your Ex Back

Monday, June 8th, 2009

When a couple breaks up, it’s not uncommon for one or both to find another partner to get over their lost loved. Many folks look at this “new” relationship pessimistically. However, it can be a positive thing to have a casual relationship especially if you are getting over a longer relationship. If you didn’t know, this casual relationship can help you in winning your ex back. It really doesn’t matter which one of you is rebounding, there’s a chance to get them back.

Do you understand the meaning behind a rebound relationship? It’s a relationship that helps in the recovery of getting your self-confidence back. It helps in that you can get a better grasp on life after you have been through a tough breakup. The same is for your ex. Most rebound relationships do not work. Why? There are relationships created at a time when a person is most vulnerable and needs to dull the pain of being alone. They’ll never be able to erase the memories the heartbreaking relationship had but they certainly do the trick of trying.

Don’t think of a rebound relationship as a bad thing. They can assist in helping you move past the hurtful feeling you have bottled up inside. They help in reducing your depression. These relationships are quite healthy in getting over a past relationship. It’s all right to have someone help you move past what you feel. You want to know that there is still someone interested in you despite how you feel from the breakup. Self-confidence can be shattered very easily and it can take plenty of time to pick up the pieces.

While you don’t want to think about your ex moving on, rebound relationships can help you in winning your ex back. If they move onto another relationship, it means that they are having a difficult time moving past the relationship he/she was in with you. While it doesn’t erase the time together, it does ease the pain they feel too. When all is said and done, both of you will be in better shape and then if you want to try and win your ex back, go for it.

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Rebound Relationships: How Can You Win Your Ex Back

Thursday, May 7th, 2009

You’ve been dumped, felt “ill” about it for a bit but realized it was time to get out of your funk. You’ve decided that you want your ex back and have made a plan to win them back. There’s just one little hitch… your ex is dating someone else. Now what?

With this little known fact, do you actually have a chance to win your ex back? Should you move on with your life without them in it or should you stand your ground and get them back? It’s likely you’ll have many questions running through your mind and little answers to suffice them.

The first thing you need to remember is to remain calm. Panicking can only hurt your situation. The reality is…don’t feel threatened with the knowledge that your ex has already started a new relationship. This “rebound” relationship can work to your advantage. How so? It demonstrates your ex’s need for someone to be in his or her life. That means there was no way else for them to deal with the fact of losing you (even if they were the ones who dumped you) and they had to have someone there to fill the void.

Here’s something that should have you breathing easy… nearly 95 percent of all rebound relationships fail within the first month. If that’s the case, then why do they occur? They occur because the other person wants to see if they can move on without you in their lives. It might also serve you well if you find a rebound relationship yourself. After all, you want to be sure that your ex is the one you want to be with? How else will you know this if you don’t date someone else either? Still, you don’t have to have a rebound relationship to know this for sure.

With statistics about rebound relationships on your side, you really have no worries about not being able to get your ex back. Think of the new relationship this way… it’s their way of coping that you are not a part of their lives again.

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