You’re the world one moment and the next you’re nothing. Is that really possible? Just days ago you were talking about how you and your boyfriend were going to be together forever because you knew you loved each other and then today he suddenly breaks it off, saying perhaps ‘lets just be friends‘.

He’s confused. That is the most likely answer to the question you’re asking. He most likely doesn’t know what he’s feeling so there’s no point in you asking him. However, there is a way for you to figure out his feelings by imagining a “scale of emotions.” You can figure out what he’s feeling by the way he reacts to you after your breakup.

He hasnt called?  Sending a lot of text messages?  Has he gone out of his way to bump into you on the street just to say hi and see how you’re doing?  If you answered “no” to all these questions, it’s likely what he really meant by let’s just be friends and has lost that spark of interest towards you and is just indifferent. If you answered, “Yes” to any or all of those questions, it’s likely he’s still into you; he might just not know how to go about understanding his feelings.

Yes, he confuses you with his actions because he still treats you like his girlfriend more than an ex. No, he’s not being cruel or trying to torture you. Be patient with him. Perhaps, after time when he’s back to being more normal than not, you should take that first step and ask him to lunch and talk to him. Lets just be friends is not what you want to hear from him. Let him know where you stand and he just might come around to seeing where he stands.