When you break up with your ex, it can be quite easy to fall into the habit of still sleeping with them. Why not?

You are familiar with the person and know what they like and dislike. Yet, if you had strong feelings for the person you are now sleeping with no strings attached, then you could be doing more harm than good. However, you should never ever sleep with your ex after you have broken up. There are several reasons why this should not happen.

Never let your ex have it both ways. This means you shouldn’t allow them to sleep with you if they don’t want to be in a committed relationship with you. Think of it this way… they get a paycheck for doing nothing at all. Sex and relationships should be a part of one package. Sex should never be the paycheck.

If the relationship was sour but the sex was good, your ex will try to sleep with you without having to worry about a commitment of some sort. If you have respect for yourself, you’ll stand up to your ex and tell them no.

You have to tell your ex that when they gave you up, they gave up any chance to sleep with you too. If you think that sleeping with them any chance you or they get will bring them back to you, you will be setting yourself up for a serious heartbreak. If they are already getting what they want from you, there’s no reason to be back in the relationship. Here’s some information to help you forget your ex fast.

Should you still be sleeping with your ex, whatever the reason you should stop now. It’s true that once you cut them off from the intimacy, they will take offense. Name calling is likely but just dismiss this treatment. Don’t feel guilty for cutting off what is actually most precious. If he/she wants a relationship, then sex can be negotiated. Other than that, forget it.

You’ll have to realize that maybe your ex should stay your ex and be able to move past that hurt that is continuing by you sleeping with him/her.