When you have been through a breakup, it’s quite common to feel alone and sad. You may feel like life isn’t worth living without your ex in your life. You may think that life is better with them in it. However, you need to ask yourself an all-important question: do you really want them back or is it pain and loneliness setting in to makes you feel the way you feel?

Being dumped can be very painful. You don’t know how to feel or act when you are suddenly on your own. Facing the big, bad world on your own may seem so scary to do that you’re likely want to seek out the one person who kept you safe. However, you have to make sure that it’s really worth going back for. After all, you don’t want to be in a relationship just because you are scared to be alone and don’t think you can make it on your own.

Does this need to not be alone meant you don’t love your ex? Not at all. It just basically means that while you need and love your ex, your ex may not feel the same way as you. You may find what you want in stability with someone other than your ex that could actually be much better than your ex too. You may not realize it but everybody is afraid of being alone and staying that way his or her entire life. When this happens, they’ll reach out to the one thing that made them feel completely safe even if it’s not the thing their heart really wants.

Not everyone is the same. While you may truly love your ex and want them back, other people just want the security the relationship has. If you believe you really love your ex, then it’s time to find a way to bring you two back together. However, determine for sure that you want your ex back before you do. You may end up causing them and yourself undue pain by not figuring this out first.

When you are in a relationship and it ends up abruptly, the last thing many people who are being dumped want to hear is, “let’s be friends”. Too often it’s seen as a lie and the person who says it doesn’t mean anything by it. They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear but you’ll never hear from them again. However, the “let’s be friends” line doesn’t have to be just a line. Sometimes, it does mean more than just the common view.

Sometimes “let’s be friends” means, “let’s be friends”. Some people are often sincere about how they feel. They don’t kid around with what they say and don’t lie about what they feel. They truly would like you to stay in their life. Believe it or not, this phrase can have more emphasis on a person’s life than the dumped person realizes. Sometimes, it means they want you there so they can understand their own feelings about you.

Relationships have good times and they have bad times so it’s not uncommon to find both persons questioning the relationship and how they feel about the relationship in general. It’s natural to question a relationship especially if it seems like the relationship is always in turmoil. When the relationship is in turmoil, feelings can become skewed and breakups often follow. It’s a breakup that neither one really wants but has to happen to discover how they feel.

This is why it’s important to understand the meaning behind “let’s be friends” with your ex. If it seems your ex is having a hard time with the breakup, then you still have a chance to win them back. All you need to do is let them work out how they feel and come up with a plan to win them back. If they still want you in their lives, you’ll be able to tell through the little things they will do to get close to you. The “let’s be friends” line isn’t a line for your ex; it’s a way for them not to lose you completely.

When you have been in a relationship for sometime, it can be rather distressing when your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you they want to break up. However, you can take your heart and piece it back together. All you need to do is 3 things to help you put yourself back together again and get your ex back.

What are these 3 things that you should keep in mind and do?

First, remember that when the breakup occurs, life will go on

You may feel empty inside and even lonely. You may feel like everything that went wrong because of something you did. Stop berating yourself over this failure. Life does keep going with or without him or her. They are also more in reach than you think. Try to get some optimism back in your life without allowing that sadness and the anger you feel to take over you completely. By getting up and doing something, you’ll soon have the energy and frame of mind to do more.

Second, you need to be sure to stop talking or seeing him or her

You already know how emotional the situation is so anything you say or do can be taken the wrong way. It’s best to take some time for yourself so you don’t hurt your chance of winning your ex back. Sometimes you may feel being there is what you need to do but it’s not. Walk away and get a break. Before you start trying for your ex again, work on the things that are affecting your life.

Third, take a deep breath. Don’t worry so much about what you are to do now that he or she is gone

Too much thought process about the breakup can cause a brain overload. Instead, think about things that can help you get over the breakup and put your life back on track. Remember those friends you had before the relationship? Seek them out and have a good time with them. If you need to, force yourself to do this. Having a good time tends to make people thing life isn’t so impossible to deal with.

The above tips won’t necessarily bring your ex back but gives you a chance to work on yourself so you can have a possible chance to get your ex back.

If you have been dumped, you probably think that the only way to get your ex back would be to see them and talk with them constantly.  This is, in fact, counter productive. If you stop talking with them for a specific amount of time (3-4 weeks will do) then you’ll see that there are several benefits to waiting.

If you and your ex are fighters, it is best to spend some time apart so both of you can cool your heads. This is especially true for couples who just broke up. If you feel like you both can have a go at the relationship after some time apart, then it is best not to see each other for about a month. Seeing each other causes more conflict and honestly, the time apart is rather good for all involved.

After the peaceful month has passed, both of you should be less unreceptive. You can settle all those issues that drove you apart with an open mind and open heart, thus starting the healing process. If you want to get your ex back with confidence, it is necessary to give yourselves this break.

No matter the type of breakup you have, whether it is constantly fighting with each other or having a mutual time away, it is a way to rekindle the flames and fire in your relationship. If you are constantly seeing each other, it’s like you never broke up and both of you won’t have the time to miss one another.

Remember these two old expressions, “You don’t appreciate what you have until it’s gone” and “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”. How can you be appreciated if you never actually leave. He or she won’t have the opportunity to know what he or she is missing if you are always together. If the breakup was under a mutual understanding, there is always a chance for another shot. Yet, he or she will never see it…so spend some quality time apart.

When it seems everything is falling apart around you, it can be hard to make any sort of correct decisions. Don’t react to your circumstances. Instead react with a plan to those circumstances. Hence this reason for the time apart, you can develop some sort of plan to get your ex back.

Without a plan, people act in all kinds of ways. You may lack the right words, turning off your ex. You may come off as needy thus sending your ex running from your attempts to get back together. So, embrace this month long hiatus to develop a plan that has actually worked. Don’t do what you think works, do what does work.

If you really are serious about getting back together with your ex, then you should take the advice you get just as seriously. Sometimes it’s difficult from staying away from the one you love but if you want your ex back, you really need to do give yourself and your ex a break.