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2 Big Reasons Your Ex Will Call You Back

Friday, April 3rd, 2009

Imagine this scenario if you will:
“Hey Bobby, it’s Marina. I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciated what you did for me. It’s helped me more than you can imagine.  Give me a call back. I’d like to thank you in person.”

Can you guess how a message like that is going to almost ensure a phone call back from your ex?  Here’s a hint: there are two factors that appeal to the human that make this call golden. One factor is a word; the other is just an urge. Give up?

When Marina calls Bobby she tells him she appreciates him. Bobby likes this because he sees that Marina is seeing him on a different level.  She’s talking about him, igniting his ego to give him that feeling of approval. However, Bobby isn’t entirely sure why or what Marina is even talking about.  Now he’s curious.  What could he have done that made Marina take the time to thank him?  Was it the flowers he sent to soften the blow?  Was it the fact that he broke up with her in order to help her find herself again because she changed too much for him?  There could be a million things Marina would be calling to thank him for… something he may not even be expecting.

Self-Interest and curiosity are two aspects humans can’t resist.  They both create a flame inside of you that is only satiated when pursued.  It’s just instinct to want to know why.  It’s just instinct like being told you’ve done something good.

Can you see now why Marina’s message would entice Bobby to give Marina a call back?  She played on his curiosity and showed interest in him, playing on his self-interest. He wants to know what he did and he’s glad she appreciates him.

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Calling Your Ex When Drunk – Does It Help?

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009

It’s difficult going through a breakup for sure. However, you should know that it isn’t hopeless if you are sincere to get him or her back. Like most things that you do in life, you need a strategy. Follow that strategy to the tee but make sure you avoid some serious mistakes such as drunk dialing. Calling your ex while you’re drunk is the worst thing you can do and you’ll wonder why you ever did it in the first place.

It may seem like the pain of it all is too much to hand on your own. However, you do not need drugs or alcohol to deal with that pain. Remember, it is a temporary fix that could have some serious long term implications. You have to stay level headed so you don’t make mistakes that will risk jeopardizing your chance to get your ex back. The biggest mistake of all breakup mistakes is drunk dialing.

When does drunk dialing usually occur? It happens mostly at night, during the overnight hours. This is when your loneliness feeling hits home and you can’t stand the loss any longer. Calling up your ex can be even worse when you have ingested drugs or drank alcohol. As the stimulants go through your body, you begin to think of why you should call your ex. You think the call wouldn’t hurt. As time passes, this bad idea is a good idea in your mind only.

However, you go ahead and dial his or her number. As the dial tone turns to a ring, you realize you don’t know what to say. It goes to voicemail and what do you say…everything you should not say. You ramble on about how much you miss your ex. Thinking what you said will be enough, you hang the phone up, not feeling any much better than before you made the call.

When will you realize you made this call? It’s typically in the morning after the effects of the drugs and alcohol had worn off. Suddenly a light bulb in your head goes on and you realize how big of a fool you look making that phone call.

However, this problem of calling your ex while you are drunk is quite common. All you need to do is to control your emotions and feelings. Firstly, sober up and realize that life is not like what you see in movies. Appearing desperate and pathetic makes you a big-turnoff! If you want a chance to get your ex back, get yourself into healthy activities and be positive, instead of drinking yourself drunk.

 

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Win Ex Back: Why Pleading, Drunk Dialing, Text Message Won’t Help?

Monday, February 9th, 2009

When you have been dumped, it can be hard to see straight, let alone think straight. Your world has been turned upside down. With everything going on, you are likely to make some serious mistakes that can kill your chance for a reunion. However, these mistakes can be rectified if you realize what you are doing and stop immediately. If you want to win your ex back, it’s important that you recognize the errors and do the right thing. After all, your ex is still important to you, right?

Error 1 – Pleading Your Case

Okay, first thing, do not beg or plead your case, hoping your ex will take pity on you, realize they still love you and come back. It does not work. Yes, it is a natural reaction to have after a breakup but it’s also a big mistake to do. When you pressure your ex to come back, you are essentially driving them further away. You are liable to make them even angrier at you for not giving them the space they need to sort through their feelings. It’s important that your ex gets this space. Don’t act needy, desperate and certainly whiny. You only affirm their decision to end the relationship.

Error 2 – Drunk Dialing

What is drunk dialing? Know those midnight or later phone calls you make to your ex, hoping to hear their voice, leading you to beg and plead for a second chance… only to realize that you sound like a goofball and quickly hang up? Oh yeah and you are drunk too. That is drunk dialing and for any ex to get that kind of phone call, it is not sexy in the least.

Drinking does take the pain away for a short time but it brings it back full force once the effect has begun to wear off.  When you are depressed about the breakup, drinking only further enhances those feelings. Do not do drunk dialing even if it sounds good when you are drinking. It doesn’t do anything for you or win your ex.

Error 3 – Text Message Terrorism

This mistake cannot be blamed on alcohol. Text message terrorism occurs when you constantly assail your ex with phone calls, text messages, emails, instant messages, etc. You believe that constantly trying to get a hold of your ex is a good thing because it keeps them thinking about you. Actually, it does make them think about you but in a negative way not positive. If your ex hasn’t called you after the first phone call or message, the chances are they won’t be calling you.

If this is your case, then do the next best thing. Give your ex the space they need to work through the problems they saw. During this time, you work on your own problems. If things work out, then maybe the two of you can work things out and get back together but using text message terrorism to stay in their life will not work or win your ex back. It just makes you look like a psycho.

 

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3 Rules to Follow After The Initial Breakup

Tuesday, November 4th, 2008

Have you ever watched a friend get dumped and watch their life spiral out of control? When you have been dumped, it’s normal to feel like nothing makes sense to you. You may take unnecessary risks that could hurt your chances of getting them back in your life. If you want your life to have some sort of stability back in it, you need to know what things you should not do after you’ve just been dumped and really want to get your ex back.

While there are many things you shouldn’t do after a breakup, there are actually 3big things that need to be done. Understand that you may be a bit impulsive after the breakup so you really need to be careful how much and how far you take these behaviors. Even if you made these mistakes, depending on the severity and how many times it’s been done, you may still be able to get your ex back.

Rule One – No Contact With Ex

It’s a normal reaction to try and shower your ex with affection. It’s a mistake that, all too often, people make when trying to get their ex back. However, it’s the biggest mistake to make actually. A breakup occurred because your ex needed space to think about all the issues in his or her life without you constantly in their face. Instead of trying to talk to them, find ways that help you soothe your feelings while fixing the problems your relationship has.

Rule Two – Get Together With Friends/ Stay Active

The worst thing you can do for yourself after a breakup is to sit on your butt, eating spoonfuls of ice cream right of the jug, feeling sorry for yourself. Instead, get up, get dressed and get out of the house with your friends. When your heart is in pain, such as it is, your friends are the one constant reminder that life can and does go on. Get them to show you this. Allow yourself some time to grief for your loss but still allow yourself the chance to have a great time with those who care about you. Never let breakup pain stop you from living.

Rule Three – No Contact Rules to Keep

Be sure to read rules one and two and understand them and keep them close to you in your mind. It’s quite difficult to not want to call your ex. People have a constant battle inside themselves when it comes to these very things after a breakup. Yet, if you can get up and out, you’ll be a step ahead of those negative feelings.

There are other things you can do to get your ex back. However, these 3 rules are vital to your success in getting your ex back.

 

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5 Tell-Tale Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

Friday, October 24th, 2008

If you have broken up with your ex but still having feelings for your ex, how can you tell if they still love you? There’s actually 5 tell-tale signs to look for if you want to know for sure if they really love you.

 

(1)  Checks Up On You –

 

Have you noticed that your ex hasn’t stopped calling just to see how you’ve been? Does it seem like they think of you quite often? People who are thinking of their ex significant other will call so the other person will know feelings for their ex are still there inside them.

 

(2)  Friends but Invitations –

 

Do you have an ex who keeps asking you if you’d like to join him or her to do something? Do they say this is just as friends? It may be true in some cases. However, when feelings are still there, invitations generally mean they are comfortable with the breakup and want to see you still.

 

(3)  Presents at the Holidays –

 

You never expect an ex to get you a present, right? The only time this will happen is when your ex still has a thing for you. You’ll get a present or card for your birthday and/or holidays. You can tell by these actions that your ex is still pining away for you. Basically, they are still having feelings of love for you.

 

(4)  Friends Tell You Your Ex Asks About You –

 

Another tell-tale sign that your ex is thinking about you is by asking your friends about you and your life. In fact, they may be curious to see who you are dating and what you have been doing with your time. If friends tell you about their curiosity, chances are your ex is still thinking and cares about you.

 

(5)  They Still Do Things Like They Used To For You –

 

Is your ex still doing things for you out of the goodness of their heart? Do they remind you about events in your life such as family birthdays? Do they still remind you about things that should be done? If so, the chances are the feelings is still there. Why would they bother otherwise?

 

Should you be noticing these signs, then it’s a sure bet that your ex still wants you back. The thing is: if you are still in love with your ex, you shouldn’t squander time but work on getting your ex back.

 

  

 

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Get Your Ex on the Phone: 3 Success Formulas

Sunday, August 31st, 2008

One of the hardest tasks you will face after a breakup is getting your ex on the phone to speak with you. This is especially true if the breakup was not amicable and was just one-sided. There is hope, however. You just need to be aware of 3 not to do things that will help get them to return your call.

(1) Don’t plead your case or beg them to give you a second chance

These things tend to fail miserably. Even if they come back to you because of this, they are already thinking it won’t work. Don’t beg!

(2) Even if they don’t call you back, don’t make it out like it is life and death

This is quite futile and portrays you as the psycho ex who is desperate. Believe it or not, people, including your ex, are smart. He or she will already know there is no emergency. It’s just wise not to act like it is one.

(3) Don’t leave a message that lasts for hours on end on their answering machine or voice mail

Exes rarely listen to messages in its entirety. What you see in the movies is complete fiction so don’t rely on them for guidance. If you want your message to come across as sincere, this is not the way.

So, if you truly want to get your ex on the phone, simply remember these 3 things that you should not do. What should you do if you want to get your ex on the phone? It’s simple really… curiosity and self-interest. Try using the lines, “Hey, how’s it going. I wanted to tell you thank you because what you did turned my life around. Call me back when you get the chance. I’d like to thank you in person”. Your ex is bound to be wondering what in the world they did that made you feel so helped. It also lowers their guard because it doesn’t seem like you are trying to get back together with them.

Before you even manage to get your ex on the phone, be sure you have a plan for what you are going to say. Without some thinking and a strategy, you’re likely to shoot yourself in the foot and won’t get a second chance.  Get quick solution to your answers by visiting The Magic Of Making Up now.

 

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Make Your Ex Call You Back: Here’s The Sneaky Way

Friday, August 29th, 2008

It’s hard not feeling depressed or desperate when you have just been dumped. You do not want your ex to see you like that too. So how in the world do you do this? First, you need them to call you. If you want him or her to call you, you need to be a bit sneaky which is possible if done correctly.

You want to make him or her interested in calling you back so your initial contact needs to be calming in nature. If you want them to call you, you need to know what to say to peak their interest. Done in this manner, neither of you feels self-conscious talking.

Try to leave a message rather than speak directly to them. If you talk then, you may feel a bit silly telling him to call you back or they may want to know right then what you have to say. No, you have to have a bit of mystery surrounding your message.

You don’t have to narrow your message to one topic but it can be much easier and expedient. Being too vague can annoy your ex so just saying, “Hey, when you get the chance, call me back. I need to talk to you about something.” This can have a much more profound effect. You don’t have to use this exact sentence but try something comfortable for you and for your ex. Try something that will allow them to call. Something to this effect really does work.

That’s why it is so vitally important that you have a plan and know what to say when your ex calls you back.  You don’t want your ex to see you flustered by trying to tell him or her something and it coming out so wrong. Learn exactly what to say to your ex, this video will help you giving you more confidence to proceed.

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How to Get Your Ex On the Phone?

Thursday, August 28th, 2008

When you have been dumped, it can be difficult to get your ex back but even more difficult to get them to return your phone calls. Yet, the best way to deal with those relationships problems is to have some sort of clear communication between the both of you. Yet, getting him or her on the phone can be rather hard.

Start doing this by stop leaving some many messages on his/her answering machine or voicemail message. You may even want to stop e-mailing them. It will get to the point that he or she will just delete the message once they hear it’s you or see that you sent them yet another message without even listening or reading it. For this reason alone, you can have a tough time getting through for their attention.

If you really want to get him or her to call you back, you need to find something that will get them interested. Saying “I love you” repeatedly doesn’t work so you need to find something that does. It’s less likely you will get a return call through this saying so you need to find a less stressful message to leave that will get them curious.

Try using something such as: “Hey thought I would call and see how you were. I wanted to tell you thank you too. You really turned my life around by what you did. If you have a chance, give me a call back so I can thank you in person.”

Now doesn’t that sound attention grabbing? Your ex will wonder how it helped you out and they’ll be calling you to find out. Curiosity will end over their conscience. Yet, you better find out what you are going to say before you leave that message. If they call and you don’t have this idea well thought out, you are going to look like a fool. If you want to get your ex back, it’s best to have some sort of plan before your initial call. Trying to get your ex on the phone, try this site here.

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3 Reasons Your Ex Won’t Return Your Calls

Sunday, August 24th, 2008

After a relationship as dissolved, it’s not easy for exes to talk to one another even more so on the phone. People tend to make mistakes when they try to reach their ex on the phone but it can be achieved once you have the right way figured out. If you want your ex to call you back, you need a few simple sentences to kick start their interest. That way your phone will be ringing instead of theirs.

Why isn’t your ex returning your call? Perhaps what you are saying is scaring them away. There are 3 kinds of phone messages/calls that is likely to drive away your ex further, never mind not call you back. These 3 things are: pleading, fake emergencies and heartfelt speeches.

Phone Mistake Number (1) – Pleading

Whether you know it or not, a pleading voice will not assure you a call back from your ex. All it does is drive him or her away, glad to be away from any desperation that you may feel. One such example of a pleading call is, “I miss you. Would you please call me back so we can talk? I hate it when I can’t hear your voice. Please just call me back as soon as you can.”

Phone Mistake Number (2) – Fake Emergency

What is a fake emergency? It’s when you call your ex telling him/her to call you back because it is an emergency. Chances are there is no emergency (though you may feel like it is) and they will see right through that. What does doing this make you? It shows that you are desperate and over dramatic. This kind of action goes in hand with the pleading too.

Phone Mistake Number (3) – Heartfelt Speeches

Don’t rely on those romance movies where one partner makes a speech to his/her beloved on the phone and when they see each other, they run into each other’s arms, forgiving them. Real life is never like the movies. For one thing, an answering machine or voicemail will cut you off midstream. Or you get the whole thing said and the wrong effect is felt. Leaving heartfelt messages on phones and answering machines gives off the impression of desperation and you will seem weak in their eyes.

These 3 tips are things you need to keep in mind when wanting to leave a message for your ex if you want your ex to call you back. So with this in mind, what do you need to say? Say something that will peak his/her curiosity and their self-interest. Try saying something like this, “Hey, how is it going? I thought I’d tell you thank you for what you did. If you call me back, I’d like to tell you this in person.” There is no sign of weakness and you’ll raise their curiosity level.

Before you even leave a message on the phone like this, make sure you have some sort of plan in place. If you want your ex to call you back, you better know what you are going to say that may peak their curiosity. Never talk to them without some sort of plan. Also, you aren’t doomed to failure if you made those above phone call mistakes. You can always redeem yourself.

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3 Tips to Earn a Second Chance with Your Ex

Friday, August 22nd, 2008

Your boyfriend or girlfriend has left you, leaving you wondering what to do next. You realize you don’t want to be in this sort of predicament but you don’t know where to start to get out of it. Can you even fix those mistakes that drove your ex away in the first place? You can get your ex back so long as you have a plan and the attitude to get the task accomplished.

What should you need to know first? Determine how you ended up alone. If you want to get your ex back, you need to know what kind of mistakes sent your ex packing. You need to understand apologizes won’t fix up your problems…although it is a start. If you want to know how to really fix your relationship, you need to know how to begin.

Below are three ideas that can help you to succeed in winning over your ex so you can have another shot at the relationship. The three ideas, in no certain order, are: no contact, avoid harassing your ex and organize an attack plan to win him or her back. By following these simple tasks, you’ll soon find the situation better than before or possibly getting them to talk to you about why you deserve another chance.

Cut Off Contact

While you may think cutting off contact with your ex is a bad thing, it is, in fact, the best thing for all involved. When you breakup, especially when relationships have lasted for some time, emotions are running rampant. By allowing some time to pass and some space between the both of you, emotions will settle down and both of you will be able to talk calmly about what was amiss in the relationship. This is also the time for him or her to miss you.

Avoid Harassing your Ex

You may feel the urge and impulse to call or harass your ex while you are in a state of depression. Such things are called drunken dialing and text message terrorism. By doing this, you break the no contact rule and mess up any chance of winning back your ex. It makes him or her glad that they moved on without you. If you keep it up, he or she will eventually stop taking your phone calls and may even change their number. You will also be labeled as the psycho ex amongst your mutual friends.

Organize an Attack Plan

During your time apart, put together a plan that aims at you winning back your ex. Not having a plan leaves you wandering aimlessly at restoring the relationship. If you don’t have this plan in place, it may be best to avoid him or her until you settle on some sort of one.

Why is this no contact rule so important? Understand that everyone needs time away from each other. If you can’t fix yourself or discover the issues that were plaguing the relationship the first time around, you have to know it won’t work a second time. This month long hiatus is really for your benefit as well as your ex. If you can get your ex back, then it’s imperative to know what went wrong. Put every effort forth in fixing the relationship if that is what you want to do.

Never forget though how important having a plan is. It may seem like you are walking on eggshells in the beginning and in some sense, you are. Though things may seem calmer, it is still wise to walk in with a plan in mind and not stumbling through the relationship with no idea what to say or how to act. If you can get your ex back, you need to cover all your bases.

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