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Calling Your Ex When Drunk – Does It Help?

Tuesday, February 17th, 2009

It’s difficult going through a breakup for sure. However, you should know that it isn’t hopeless if you are sincere to get him or her back. Like most things that you do in life, you need a strategy. Follow that strategy to the tee but make sure you avoid some serious mistakes such as drunk dialing. Calling your ex while you’re drunk is the worst thing you can do and you’ll wonder why you ever did it in the first place.

It may seem like the pain of it all is too much to hand on your own. However, you do not need drugs or alcohol to deal with that pain. Remember, it is a temporary fix that could have some serious long term implications. You have to stay level headed so you don’t make mistakes that will risk jeopardizing your chance to get your ex back. The biggest mistake of all breakup mistakes is drunk dialing.

When does drunk dialing usually occur? It happens mostly at night, during the overnight hours. This is when your loneliness feeling hits home and you can’t stand the loss any longer. Calling up your ex can be even worse when you have ingested drugs or drank alcohol. As the stimulants go through your body, you begin to think of why you should call your ex. You think the call wouldn’t hurt. As time passes, this bad idea is a good idea in your mind only.

However, you go ahead and dial his or her number. As the dial tone turns to a ring, you realize you don’t know what to say. It goes to voicemail and what do you say…everything you should not say. You ramble on about how much you miss your ex. Thinking what you said will be enough, you hang the phone up, not feeling any much better than before you made the call.

When will you realize you made this call? It’s typically in the morning after the effects of the drugs and alcohol had worn off. Suddenly a light bulb in your head goes on and you realize how big of a fool you look making that phone call.

However, this problem of calling your ex while you are drunk is quite common. All you need to do is to control your emotions and feelings. Firstly, sober up and realize that life is not like what you see in movies. Appearing desperate and pathetic makes you a big-turnoff! If you want a chance to get your ex back, get yourself into healthy activities and be positive, instead of drinking yourself drunk.

 

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Win Ex Back: Why Pleading, Drunk Dialing, Text Message Won’t Help?

Monday, February 9th, 2009

When you have been dumped, it can be hard to see straight, let alone think straight. Your world has been turned upside down. With everything going on, you are likely to make some serious mistakes that can kill your chance for a reunion. However, these mistakes can be rectified if you realize what you are doing and stop immediately. If you want to win your ex back, it’s important that you recognize the errors and do the right thing. After all, your ex is still important to you, right?

Error 1 – Pleading Your Case

Okay, first thing, do not beg or plead your case, hoping your ex will take pity on you, realize they still love you and come back. It does not work. Yes, it is a natural reaction to have after a breakup but it’s also a big mistake to do. When you pressure your ex to come back, you are essentially driving them further away. You are liable to make them even angrier at you for not giving them the space they need to sort through their feelings. It’s important that your ex gets this space. Don’t act needy, desperate and certainly whiny. You only affirm their decision to end the relationship.

Error 2 – Drunk Dialing

What is drunk dialing? Know those midnight or later phone calls you make to your ex, hoping to hear their voice, leading you to beg and plead for a second chance… only to realize that you sound like a goofball and quickly hang up? Oh yeah and you are drunk too. That is drunk dialing and for any ex to get that kind of phone call, it is not sexy in the least.

Drinking does take the pain away for a short time but it brings it back full force once the effect has begun to wear off.  When you are depressed about the breakup, drinking only further enhances those feelings. Do not do drunk dialing even if it sounds good when you are drinking. It doesn’t do anything for you or win your ex.

Error 3 – Text Message Terrorism

This mistake cannot be blamed on alcohol. Text message terrorism occurs when you constantly assail your ex with phone calls, text messages, emails, instant messages, etc. You believe that constantly trying to get a hold of your ex is a good thing because it keeps them thinking about you. Actually, it does make them think about you but in a negative way not positive. If your ex hasn’t called you after the first phone call or message, the chances are they won’t be calling you.

If this is your case, then do the next best thing. Give your ex the space they need to work through the problems they saw. During this time, you work on your own problems. If things work out, then maybe the two of you can work things out and get back together but using text message terrorism to stay in their life will not work or win your ex back. It just makes you look like a psycho.

 

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Drunk Dialing: What It is And Why You Should Stop It

Monday, February 9th, 2009

If you have ever been dumped, you know how painful it can be to deal with it. It’s normal to make mistakes because you’re not thinking clearly about what is right and what is wrong. However, certain mistakes are much more costly and can kill any chance of reconciliation with your ex. One of the biggest mistakes a person who is suffering from the breakup blues is drunk dialing.

You should know what drunk dialing is. If you don’t know, you may have heard of a friend who has done it but don’t know it by its name. To break it down, this is drunk dialing. You decide to get yourself some alcohol. You can either be alone drinking or with some friends. With the breakup wounds pretty fresh, you get to drinking. Suddenly, the pain of the loss is so bad you decide that drinking isn’t doing much to help. You decide to give your ex a ring and see what’s going on.

You call and wait. You know you want to hear your ex’s voice even if it’s on the answering machine/voicemail. Remember the chances of your ex being asleep is great because it’s usually in the middle of the night that these phone calls come about. You hear the phone pick up… it could be the ex or the voicemail. Who knows and who cares at this point. You put your heart out on your sleeve. Once you are done, you hang up, realizing you just made a fool of yourself.

You realize that what you just did shows that you are weak when under a nasty influence such as alcohol or even drugs. Everything you just said and did just say one thing about you: needy.  What is your ex thinking about at this point? Only that she/he is glad to be away from you and that you have their pity. That feeling can be the worst feeling of all.

It can be hard to deal with breakup pain. Many people go through it. When you have been with someone for so long and suddenly that rock is gone out from underneath you, it can be hard to deal with. However, drunk dialing only makes them realize that they did the right thing by dumping you. Be aware that you can still win them back but you need to be aware of the mistakes before you make them and not to make them again if you have already done so.

Remember that alcohol helps numb the pain for a short while but comes back with a vengeance once the buzz has worn off. It makes you relax and then it makes you panic, driving you to do things you ordinarily would not do.

Drunk dialing as a result of drinking is not a constructive way to deal with the matter. Find things that are in your best interest and can help you to win him/her back. Create a plan to help you achieve this goal. You never want to go off the cuff when you are trying to win your ex back because you are liable to say the wrong thing and lose them for good.

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Why Being Clingy Drives Your Ex Further Away

Thursday, January 29th, 2009

When you are suffering a breakup, everything in your life can turn emotional. It’s normal to make mistakes when trying to deal with. However, it’s important that those mistakes don’t affect the outcome you are hoping for: getting your ex back. There are many things that can drive your ex further away from you. One of the more damaging mistakes includes: being way too clingy.

Don’t ever believe that not being panicked after a breakup doesn’t happen. It does. It’s normal to grab onto something familiar so you can move past the pain and frustration you feel. However, the feeling you have of safety may be exactly the opposite for your ex. When they are tired of dealing with you and the breakup and you “try to smother them with attention”, they may view it as being excessively clingy. You don’t want to do that.

When you latch onto your ex, it can take on many appearances. For instance, if you like to drink to get drunk you may end doing something you regret. It’s called drunk dialing and it’s when you decide to call your ex pouring your heart out and asking them to give you a second chance. You may also repeatedly try to get a hold of your ex by emailing, texting, instant messaging, etc. This is called text message terrorism.

When you do drunk dialing, text messaging or anything of the like… the overall ending won’t be good. In fact, it highlights more deepening troubles than what once was there. The idea is to work through the breakup emotions and deal with the problems that inundated the relationship and you and your ex. When you overwhelm your ex with unwanted attention, it drives them further away.

Do you want your ex back? Then, sit back and handle your own emotion. That means give you and your ex some cool down time… a month will suffice. When you do this, you keep your ex wondering what you are doing and how you have been. It also gives them a chance to miss you. While you are giving them this time, you can also deal with the issues that caused the breakup in the first place. When you do this, you have a greater chance of getting your ex back.

Instead of clinging onto your partner, most couples can reunite as long as they are determined and give the other the space needed to think about things in the relationship. However, before you start talking to your ex, have a plan of attack that will help you win them back and not drive them further away. Remember keep to that plan until everything is back to the way you want it.

 

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The 2 Common Mistakes People Still Made After a Breakup

Friday, January 16th, 2009

 

The period right after a breakup is usually the hardest people have to deal with. Life can seem rather crazy and it’s rather simple to make those crazy mistakes that can damage any chances of winning back your ex. You may begin to panic and do things you ordinarily would not do. What can these common mistakes be? They are: drunk dialing and text message terrorism.

 

Common Mistake (1) – Drunk Dialing

 

This is done when you have been drinking too much or doing drugs. It’s done when you decide to call your ex in the middle of the night and pour your heart out to them personally or on their answering machine/voicemail. If you are depressed, drinking only encourages you to do this mistake. You may think you are making hedge way into your ex’s life but actually; you are pushing them further away. Plus, you become the psycho ex that won’t take no for an answer.

 

Common Mistake (2) – Text Message Terrorism

 

This text message terrorism should never be done. In some instances, it’s a form of stalking. When you begin to panic, you tend to start doing this. You probably think that calling, texting, emailing or instant messaging your ex every day is a good thing but it’s harassing them to the point that they are liable to change their number or email address. All you show your ex is that you are needy and clingy… basically, you are a psycho ex that needs to be avoided at all cost.

 

When you do these things, you show many sides of yourself to your ex but you should always see yourself. Would you do any one of these things if you thought with a clear head? The answer is…probably not. A bad breakup may turn you into a raving lunatic but as long as you recognize these behaviors you can stop them right away. That means you may have a chance to win back your ex as long as you haven’t already made one too many mistakes.

 

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Winning Back Your Ex? 3 Mistakes You Need to Avoid

Friday, January 16th, 2009

Desperation, neediness, grumpiness, depression… these are the signs of a bad breakup. When someone is suffering from this problem, they may act in ways that just does not seem like themselves. Actually, this is normal but should be watched in case it leads to bigger problems such as drugs and alcohol. Using these substances can lead to even more devastating issues. It’s important that you know what you should not do when winning back your ex is your intention.

 

Mistake Breakups (1) – Excessive Attention

 

While your motives mean well, the damage is already done and is still being done when you shower your ex with too much affection. Remember your other half was essentially asking you for some time away by breaking up with you. Give them this space they are “asking” you for. When you don’t, you’re telling them that you are a psycho and desperate for their attention. You should know it is a bad idea and that you should avoid.

 

Mistake Breakups (2) – Drunk Dialing

 

One of the first things you need to lay off of is alcohol and drugs. When you are hit with the realization that you are alone, depression can hit. When depression hits, alcohol, drugs or both aren’t too far behind. When you use these substances, you could be susceptible to drunken dialing. It’s those late night phone calls to your ex, begging them to give you a second chance. You aren’t too sure what to say to get them to change their mind so you’ll say whatever pops into your mind and out of your mouth. This outburst of emotion does little for you and little for your “real” position. You won’t even realize you have done it until the morning or when someone tells you that you did it.

 

Mistake Breakups (3) – Text Message Terrorism

 

You don’t have to be in your ex’s presence to make matters bad. In fact, all you have to do is repeatedly call, text message, instant message, email, etc. them each day. When you do this, you basically say that you are a psycho and are stalking them. Don’t do this. If you want any chance of winning your ex back, you should stop this before it goes way too far.

 

 

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Don’t Make These 3 Mistakes after Your Breakup

Friday, January 16th, 2009

When a person is dumped, they may act out of sorts. This is especially true if the breakup was unexpected or quite bad. They want their ex back and who can blame them? Still, when they try to do this, they make three very big mistakes that can cost them their second chance. What three mistakes can these be?

 

Mistake (1) – Clinging

 

Everyone wants someone in his or her life. When your significant other decides they no longer want to be with you, it can be devastating. After all, you don’t want to be alone. You decide that clinging onto your ex is the best way to bring them back to you. That’s totally wrong. When you cling to your ex, you drive them further away. The breakup was designed to give a person some space so they could think about what they need and want in their life.

 

Mistake (2) – Drunk Dialing

 

Forgo the alcohol during the initial breakup period. If you drink, you are likely to do a major mistake called drunken dialing. What is this? It is done out of desperation where you lay your heart on your sleeve in a phone call to your ex usually in the middle of the night. What does this actually do for you? Nothing. What does it make you look like? A fool. It makes the person glad that they got away from you. In actual fact it does plenty of damage when you are trying to win them back.

 

Mistake (3) – Text Message Terrorism

 

It’s common to want to talk with your ex. After all, you were together for some time. However, calling them repeatedly can have devastating effects on your chances of winning back your ex. It doesn’t just mean calling your ex by phone either. It means texting them, emailing them, sending them instant messages, etc. When you do this, it’s as if you threw yourself at them each time. This is a big No-No. Just give your ex the space they need.

 

After your breakup while giving your ex space may be what you think is the worst thing to do, it’s actually the best thing. Space allows both of you to stay calm and plan out what to do next. Believe it or not, a break is needed from your other half from time to time. By not doing these three things, you can rest assured that your chances of winning them back are destroyed.

 

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2 Silly Breakup Mistakes That Won’t Win Your Ex Back

Friday, January 9th, 2009

It can be difficult to know what to do when you are trying to win your ex back. You may not realize that there are certain things you shouldn’t do or mistakes you shouldn’t make. Those mistakes can sabotage any efforts you have made to win them back. Why would you sabotage yourself? Your emotions, if you let them run you, these breakup mistakes can kill your chances. What kinds of mistakes can you make when you want to reunite with the person that hurt you most? They are drunk dialing and text message terrorism.

These 2 mistakes are so common that many people don’t realize they’ve been doing it until it suddenly dawns on them. You’ll be slapping yourself in the face and think why were you doing that. However, as soon as you notice them and cut them off, you can take the correct actions to fix the “relationship”.

However, how exactly are these two breakup mistakes and what are they to be exact?

(1)  Drunk Dialing – What is drunk dialing? Well, if you like to drink when you are depressed, you’re liable to make this mistake many times over until you catch yourself doing it or someone tells you about it. It’s when you drink beyond your normal consumption of alcohol or have taken some narcotic drug and think about the good times you had with your significant other… now ex. You contemplate everything you need to do to win your ex back and believe that calling them up in the middle of the night is a good thing.

What does this phone call entail? How about you are slurring your words on the phone with them or their answering machine/voicemail, pouring your heart out and wondering what they can do to win you back? Believe or not, this is not sexy and not a good way to win them back. You don’t sound romantic, you sound needy and desperate. This is very embarrassing to do and realize you have done. This is one thing you just do not do it.

(2)  Text Message Terrorism – What is text message terrorism? This isn’t done when you are drunk or high. This is done when you are completely sober. However, it’s just as damaging to your cause. Instead of calling someone with one long desperate message, you’re calling, emailing, texting him or her several times a day. Any means of communication you will use to try and get a hold of them. While your intentions are good, again, this is not the way to go about getting your ex’s attention. All you come across is desperate, needy and a psycho.

It’s important to remember that a breakup can make you make mistakes and not think like yourself but clinging to your ex in this way does not win them back but only pushes them further away. If you want to win your ex back, do so by not speaking with them for about a month. No communications between you both for a period of one month does better than constant communications. It’s during this time you both can heal and you can come up with a plan to win them back.

 

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2 Mistakes to Avoid When Getting Your Ex Back

Wednesday, January 7th, 2009

When you are dumped, it can be difficult to deal with. Your world seems to crumble around you and nothing makes sense. It’s easy to make mistakes when you aren’t thinking clearly. What sounds good is actually bad. If you are heartbroken, it’s easy to fall victim to two mistakes that ruin getting your ex back or any chance of a reunion with your ex. These two mistakes are: text message terrorism and drunken dialing.

Text Message Terrorism Mistake - What is text message terrorism? It’s when you panic about your loss and begin stalking your ex with phone calls, text messages, emails, etc. You may even try to find out where your ex is going to be so you can see them in a “chance encounter”. The worst thing you can do is to give more attention to your ex after the breakup. Instead, give them some space.

The last thing you want to look like is a desperate fool. If you want to get your ex back, you have to stay strong and not appear as if you are broken up about the breakup. When you act needy, all you are doing is pushing them further away. Your only choice is to give your ex the space he or she needs and remain cool. That means don’t go overboard with emotions and act as if you normally would.

Drunken Dialing Mistake - Most people commit this deed just once. Why? People who feel pain tend to turn to alcohol to help them through this rough time in their life. It’s actually a major faux pax. What is drunk dialing? It’s when you drink way beyond your normal capacity and decide to call your ex up in the middle of the night. You begin a spill about how they are everything in your life and how you miss them and how you wish they’d come back, so on and so forth. Sometimes they pick up the phone, other times you are throwing yourself at them by way of their answering machine or voicemail. This is a major faux pax. It makes you look desperate and sound needy. You definitely should avoid alcohol if you aren’t able to handle it or the situation. Alcohol and drugs do not do anything for you and your attempts to get your ex back.

By doing one or both of these mistakes, you can really ruin your chances of getting your ex back, especially if things seem to be going on track. However, if you have already committed one of them, it’s not impossible to recover from these issues.

 

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How to Fight Negative Breakup Emotions

Saturday, January 3rd, 2009

Imagine, if you will, that your significant other tell you they no longer want to be with you. How do you think you will feel? It’s likely that your feelings are going to be all over the map with you understanding very little of it. The chances of you handling it any better are worse. However, the most important thing you will have to remember is to stay in total control especially if you are aiming to win back your ex.

No sooner than the breakup occurs, you’ll start to feel all kinds of emotions. These emotions are completely normal and all right. Yet, you can’t use them as an excuse to hide away from the world. Never let your emotions stop you from doing what you need to do and what you want to. If your goal is to win back your ex, you won’t do that hiding under covers or staying in your house.

Despite the pain you are enduring, it’s important to stay strong, both physically and emotionally. Make sure you feel the pain but don’t let it consume you that you stop moving forward. After all, you can’t win back your ex when you are depressed.

It’s necessary to find outlets that are healthy. Many people use drugs and alcohol to deal with every day life. This is not the way to go. In fact, these substances can do more harm than good. For instance, when you are drunk, you may call your ex, pleading for a second chance. What it actually comes out to be is you babbling on and on incoherently. You already have enough to deal with. Don’t make drunk dialing a part of the mess.

When your ex decides to leave, you may become desperate. Another big fatal flaw many people do without realizing it is trying to call their ex every hour just to find out what they are up to and how they can make everything better. When you do this, you pressure your ex. This is called Text Message Terrorism and it doesn’t just mean by text messaging does this happen. Phone calls, emails, etc. are all lumped into this category.

You have to take care of you first. You may be afraid to be alone for a time but never be ashamed to admit how you feel to yourself or others. However, use those feelings as a motivation to move forward. You can turn those negative feelings around and make it a positive outcome.

 

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