Holidays can be especially brutal when you have just been dumped. It can be hard to face people who are with their loved ones when you don’t have anyone in your life. After all, they are happy, you are depressed. However, there are ways to move past the pain you feel and perhaps even win the love of your life back. How? Follow these two simple tips to help you win your ex back.

For starters, do not speak with your ex for a bit of time. You probably think this is the worst thing you can do but it’s actually for the best. When you don’t speak to your ex for a while, they wonder what you are up to and if you are thinking about them. You may not see it for some time but they may eventually call you to see how you have been. When you give your ex space, both of you can move past any hurtful feelings and words that may have been felt or said.

Secondly, begin putting your life together. When you are depressed, you don’t think about much else including how you look or how you feel. Work on these issues is vitally important to your overall health and well-being. Where to begin?

Begin with your physical appearance. Try to maintain a sense of routine including starting or keeping up with an exercise routine. Go to a gym and workout some of your frustrations. When you are depressed, it’s natural to let yourself go. Don’t let this happen to you. Instead, get an exercise routine down and start getting back into shape. Your ex will notice the difference when they see you again.

You also don’t want to be shut in all the time. Go spend some time with friends you have neglected during the relationship. Go with them to the movies or clubs especially after you have worked out and lost weight or done some other self-improvement. You may even run into your ex who may do a double take and wonder why they left you in the first place. Always seek out emotional support during those trying times after the breakup occurs.

Life can seem excruciating when you’re suddenly alone after a relationship ends. You have problems making simple decisions. You don’t feel like getting up because it’s too much of a chore. There is no reason to make your life stop just because the relationship ended. You have to find ways to beat that hurt and maybe get your ex back in the meantime.

There are five things to consider after a breakup has occurred.

First off, do not ever let the hurt of the breakup keep you from living your life. After a breakup has happened, the best thing you can do is act like it doesn’t bother you. Stay strong and fight those feelings of depression. It’s time to show yourself (and your ex too) that you can still have a good time without them in your life. Get together with some friends who care about you. Get out with them to a social club where people you know hang out.

Secondly, do not turn to negative outlets to numb your pain. While drugs and alcohol can do wonders to get rid of the pain for a few hours, they can also loosen your tongue. You may not realize it until the next morning that you’ve done an overnighter call to your ex. You may think that telling your ex that you will always love him//her and no one will love him/her more than you is a good thing but it’s not. You come across desperate and needy. Not to mention, slurred words aren’t very attractive. You don’t want to embarrass yourself.

Third, stop talking to your ex. How long? Try a month. This month long period serves well for three purposes. First, you can heal the broken heart when you don’t see them all the time. Second, you can work on rebuilding your self-esteem and self-confidence. Third, you make your ex miss you.

Fourth, come up with some sort of plan that you intend to follow through with. When you are dealing with matters of the heart, this is the last part of your body that should be leading you. Instead listen to your mind and let it guide you.

Fifth, come to the realization that not all relationships were meant to be. This means you may have to move on whether you want to or not. Yet, acceptance of this possibility is crucial to your mental and emotional health.

These five items are just the basics that can lead you on the correct path to recovering from the pain you feel inside. All you need to remember is that by utilizing them, you can get your ex back if this is truly what you desire.