Often women allow themselves to become the underdog in a relationship and lose who they are. Guys will take advantage of this, especially if they know a girl is willing to do anything to get back in a relationship: even perform sexual favors as a proof that you still love him.

Don’t let him do that to you. If he wants to call off your relationship it has to be in its entirety including your physical relationship. He’ll cope and if he goes off with other girls to fulfill his need, perhaps you’re better off because you don’t need a guy like him. 

A physical relationship isn’t enough to rebuild a foundation of a relationship because there also has to be an emotional connection; you both still need to care for one another.  A relationship is like a plug: you have to have both prongs for the plug to be effective in making any device work. Let your ex know that if he wants you, he can have all of you that you’re willing to give, but if he doesn’t want you, he doesn’t get any of you.

If he’s the good guy you know he is, he’ll understand and when he sees what life is like without you. This will give you the chance to prove he was wrong in leaving you.

You may be scheming on ways to get your ex back so life can continue as before. Stop.  Take a moment to ponder if perhaps staying single would be a benefit to you. Take a step back to look at the whole picture. Do you still love him/her?  Perhaps you still do after the breakup. Can you only see life with them in the future? What if you can’t? 

Take time for yourself so you can learn who you truly are and what you really want. This is a benefit for both you and your ex. It’s all a matter of perspective. The chance may arise to get back with your ex and you really may not want to. Think about your feelings and your wants. The outcome may be different than you expected.

Though you may want to stay in your apartment wearing sweatpants and cuddling with an old pizza box, there are people out there that still care about you. Don’t neglect your support system of friends and family. They will understand that you’re hurt and need time to heal and they will be supportive and, surprisingly, the medicine you need to mend your wounded heart. 

Take the time to go out on that hike you’ve been promising to go on with your single friends. Your close friend needed a shopping partner and you’ve been blowing her off because you felt obligated to your ex. Take the girl shopping and buy something for yourself, too. Go out. Do something. Life still must go on even after a bad breakup. Do not sit around your home and mope.

The hardest part of a breakup is realizing you aren’t able to send the three hundred and sixty-four text messages a day you usually sent to your ex.  Don’t worry; you can get over this, too. Give your phone to a friend to watch for a day if you’re worried about sending an incriminating text to your ex. Try contacting him/her will only make your situation worse. Begging like a dog is a big turn off. There is the chance that you can still be friends but you can’t talk to them the same way; at least not initially.

Another helpful tip is that when you go out in public and act happy, your ex may end up pinning to win your heart back. When you both have the time apart, only time will let you both know your true feelings.

Text Message Terrorism Mistake - What is text message terrorism? It’s when you panic about your loss and begin stalking your ex with phone calls, text messages, emails, etc. You may even try to find out where your ex is going to be so you can see them in a “chance encounter”. The worst thing you can do is to give more attention to your ex after the breakup. Instead, give them some space.

The last thing you want to look like is a desperate fool. If you want to get your ex back, you have to stay strong and not appear as if you are broken up about the breakup. When you act needy, all you are doing is pushing them further away. Your only choice is to give your ex the space he or she needs and remain cool. That means don’t go overboard with emotions and act as if you normally would.

Drunken Dialing Mistake - Most people commit this deed just once. Why? People who feel pain tend to turn to alcohol to help them through this rough time in their life. It’s actually a major faux pax. What is drunk dialing? It’s when you drink way beyond your normal capacity and decide to call your ex up in the middle of the night. You begin a spill about how they are everything in your life and how you miss them and how you wish they’d come back, so on and so forth. Sometimes they pick up the phone, other times you are throwing yourself at them by way of their answering machine or voicemail. This is a major faux pax. It makes you look desperate and sound needy. You definitely should avoid alcohol if you aren’t able to handle it or the situation. Alcohol and drugs do not do anything for you and your attempts to get your ex back.

By doing one or both of these mistakes, you can really ruin your chances of getting your ex back, especially if things seem to be going on track. However, if you have already committed one of them, it’s not impossible to recover from these issues.

Getting Healthy Step (1) – Get into Shape

Would you believe that getting exercise could help you feel better both emotionally and physically? Exercising actually helps to distract you from the pain you are feeling inside. It helps to keep your body into or get into shape. When your body is healthy, your mind feels healthy. When your mind feels healthy, you can get your entire being to feel that way. On top of that, when you want to win your ex back, it doesn’t hurt to look good to make their head turn.

Getting Healthy Step (2) – Staying Social

You don’t have to be out all the time but take a few close friends out with you on the town from time to time. Spend your time with people who love you and who care about you when you need them. These are folks who can keep distracted from the pain that you are feeling inside. These are also the people who care enough to listen to your heartache. However, don’t overburden them with your problems. It’s never good to spend time alone when you feel at your worst.

Getting Healthy Step (3) – Improve Yourself

There are many things a person can dislike about himself or herself. Each person has something they want to change. If you don’t like the way you look, begin an exercise program and change it. Make yourself change the things you find irritating. When you focus on an issue such as this, you find that you no longer think about the pain that you are in. Plus when you are working to make yourself better, your ex tends to sit up and take notice.

You can’t win back your ex when the worst thing you can do for yourself is mope and let the world just pass by as if you don’t matter. You do matter so it’s important to be a part of it. Stop making excuses as to why you shouldn’t be living life and live it.

Not one single person, man or woman, wants to cry over another person that they lost. Yet, it seems that when a breakup occurs, this is exactly what they turn into…a blubbering fool. They think there isn’t anything good in life if the person they are in love with isn’t beside them. While it may be hard to do much else, there are things you need to do.

For starters, keep active. If you keep active, you have little time to wallow in self-pity and loss. If you go with friends to social clubs, you keep yourself from being depressed. You also get your ex to notice that you aren’t sitting at home, crying over “spilt milk”. It makes them take notice that you aren’t crying for them. That makes you look all the more attractive and makes them take a second look at their decision. Did they overreact in breaking up with you?

Now this is the time you are supposed to get up of the couch and put your life back together. It doesn’t matter if you want to win back your ex’s heart or if you just want to move past the feelings of hurt, nothing helps better to heal a broken heart by staying active and getting together with friends. In time, you may find you have the power to say yes or no to them wanting you back.