Let’s face it, after a particularly bad break-up there are certain faux pas we all admit that don’t exactly help our appearances out. First off there’s the comfort clothes that somehow seem to consist of the oldest rattiest sweats you own, that never come soon, since you’re feeling too depressed to even consider making an effort once you get to the point where you actually leave the house. Worse, there are all the calories we put on drowning out sorrows in the universal pain solvent, alcohol, and the comfort foods which become the daily diet of chips, cookies, and ice cream. (Why is it that we never can feel any better without at least a 500 calorie snack?)
All of these bad habits begin because after a break-up a person usually experiences a rush of low self-confidence. If I wasn’t good enough for him I must be worth nothing is the common train of thought as you decide to give up on the dating world and yourself all together. Oh, but it gets even worse, and that’s when the one ounce of pride you had vanishes into thin air as you catch a reflection of yourself in a store window, and your ex right behind you looking at you in awe in well, not such a glorious moment. If you intend to get your ex back, looking like more of a mess than when he left you for whatever the reason is not quite the correct approach.
Stop feeling depressed and it may be hard to do, but after a weekend of self-indulgence and misery it is time to get off the couch. Exercising will not only help you to feel better about yourself, but it will help work off some of the damage you created while you were feeling down. Lowering your calorie consumption is an immediate task. You had your cake, now clean out that fridge and rid yourself of the ice cream, chips, and other highly fatty foods. Time to get back to basics and that means finding the energy to eat healthy which in turn is going to put some color back in your checks and make you feel healthier in general.
Finally, after working hard to build a new great looking, healthier body, it’s time to compliment your new shape with the proper attire so your ex notices your hard work. Replace the sweats with clean form fitting clothes that accent your curves and smoothen out your imperfections. On days when you may cross paths with him, be sure to add a little finishing touch on your make-up and always take time to accessorize. Buy a few new items to leave him with the impression you have not been sulking around, but actually out doing something useful with your time. Aim for things you never would have wore when you were with him, make him wonder what he is now missing out on.
Basically, make him desire you again and you can be one step closer to getting him back and rebuilding your own self-confidence. When you feel good about yourself you do not have the time to feel depressed, this should make your ex sit up and notice you wondering why he let you go.
