When you want your ex back, it can be hard to do if you have no idea how to begin the process. Just about anyone who has suffered a breakup is going through some sort of trouble just like you are at this moment. However, if you need a little guidance, here are five trouble free tips to help you smooth things out.

Tip (1) – Keep Your Distance

When you breakup with someone, there are a ton of feelings that you have to deal with. What are some of these feelings? They are anger, abandonment, sadness and depression, etc…any of these and more. If you stay away, the chances of you fixing your problems increase. When you don’t back off, you can say hurtful things that you didn’t mean to say or didn’t mean at all. The damage can be irreparable. No contact for a month is best.

Tip (2) – Take Charge of Your Emotions

It’s understandable to feel out of control in a situation such as this but you shouldn’t let it run your life. Don’t stop moving and trying to find the happiness you deserve because someone broke your heart. Instead, get out there again and show your ex what you are made of. Turn those feelings around into something you can use.

Tip (3) – Change How You Feel

Never believe that you can change someone. The only person you can change is yourself. You don’t want to ask too much of your ex if you are trying to win them back. Instead, find the things that you don’t like about yourself and alter them. Work hard to show your ex that you can compromise with him or her. Do what you can on your side of things. If they don’t, then it’s just not meant to be.

Tip (4) – Stay Healthy

It’s so important to remain physically active along with socially active.  When you do, you amplify your self-esteem and your confidence. Get together with friends and loved ones who can help you through those trying times. You may not think you have the strength to but you really do and they can help.

Tip (5) – Create a “Win Back Your Ex” Plan

Never start those “How do you do?” conversations without some formulation of a plan. When you think on your feet with a person who has hurt you quite a bit, you may say the wrong thing. If you don’t know what to say, ask someone to help you. If you want to win back your ex, this plan is going to be a big help.

A breakup can cause a whirlwind of emotions that leaves you to wondering what you should be doing. The initial desire you may have is to be around your ex as much as possible. You lay hope that he or she will decide it was a mistake to break up with you and come back. However, doing that makes you look desperate which is what you don’t want to come across as.

There is a simpler way you can achieve in winning your ex back. This is to completely break contact. There are 3 reasons to this method:

No Contact Reason Number (1) - The days that follow the breakup can be very stressful and emotions are running rampant. However, those feelings can become bad for you if you let them control your actions. When you are apart, you create a buffer space that allows the time to “heal” emotionally. If you don’t spend time apart, you can ruin any chance of getting him or her back. You don’t want to talk with your ex if you are very emotional.

No Contact Reason Number (2) - Remember the phrase “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”? You can’t be missed if you and your ex are still talking. If you aren’t apart, you can’t stop thinking about what we went wrong in your relationship. If you spend this time apart, your ex will begin to wonder why he or she ever let you go. However, this can’t be done if you still see and talk to one another. Give them the time to miss you.

No Contact Reason Number (3) - Many things you can do without the stress of being in a relationship. If you don’t have to see him or her everyday you can better yourself without them in your face. The next time they see you, they may feel differently and wonder why they ever let you go in the first place. If they start fantasying about the new you, it makes you quite alluring to them.

Having no contact with your ex works in more than just these 3 ways but having an idea of why it is important is just as important as wanting to be around your ex and having them back.