The end of a relationship leaves a lot of mess. It’s rarely clean, crisp and straightforward and it leaves both partners with a lot of conflicting feelings. You may well be wishing you could try again. And it’s just as likely that your ex feels the same.  So if you’ve been looking for signs in what he says, what he does, who he’s with or where he goes, you might be starting to believe that he wants the same as you. But you don’t want to invite the pain of being rebuffed. So you need to be sure if your ex he wants you back.  And some of the clearest and easiest signs to read are how hard and how often he tries to get in touch with you after your breakup.

Think about how he’s approaching you.  Is he seeking you out and is he doing so more often than you might have expected in the aftermath of a breakup?  Is asking you things that lead you to believe he’s genuinely interested in how you are and what you’re doing?  Is he responding warmly to your news?  If the answers are yes then he may well be starting to realize that losing you has left a gap in his life. For many people, a breakup is one of the best ways of crystallizing feelings and bringing them to a full recognition of their feelings. This could be happening to him.

But tread carefully.  Don’t necessarily PLAY HARD TO GET but equally don’t jump to the conclusion that he’s just waiting for you to run into his arms.  It’s a process that takes a little time and if you act too soon he may not be ready and you’ll have missed your chance.  If he clearly still has feelings for you they’re unlikely to go away.  He just needs the time to recognize them fully.  So patience is the key.