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If Your Ex Still Has Feelings for You – Where Do You Fall On the Scale of Emotions

Monday, September 14th, 2009

From the unsure to the sure, you can know if your ex still has feelings for you. Because he may not know, you might have to find out for yourself. Here’s a simple and effective way to do so.

With a range of emotions that course through a person, the best way to figure out where you might stand in that person’s range is to consider a Scale of Emotions. This can be done by drawing a line and writing down a variety of emotions from “Indifferent” to the strong emotions of “Love” and “Hate”.

Indifference

The definition of indifference is not really caring one way or the other as to how the outcome might be. If you’re not a sports buff, you’re indifferent towards the outcome of the Super Bowl. Your ex can have the same feelings – or lack thereof – towards you.  How can you know how he feels?  If he doesn’t call you or contact you after the “let’s be friends” spill, he’s indifferent towards you. But what if he does try to contact you?

Love/Hate

When you’re getting frequent calls, you can be sure you’re closer to the stronger emotions on the Scale of Emotions. Love and hate are both under the strong emotions category because of the passionate outcome that arises with both love and hatred.  However, note that if your ex is still contacting you and being sweet and caring, he more likely still loves you than vindictively hates you.

If you’re still unsure if your ex still has feelings for you, just pay attention to how he reacts to you knowing that there are different degrees. You knew once before, you’ll know again.

How to Determine If Your Ex Still Loves You

Wednesday, April 1st, 2009

Some feelings just don’t go away and you know you’re still in love with your ex, but how do you know if he still loves you?  Determining his feelings for you could be complicated because he may be confused about how he really feels. However, you can learn how he sees you by following the following technique:

A Bit on the Emotional scale

There exists a line with varying degrees of relationship status between exes. You have one and so does your ex. One side shows apathy, the other shows the extreme feelings of hate and love. Imagine your ex’s line and all the people he dated and how he felt about them. Where do you stand on that line?

How to Determine Your Position on His Line

If it’s been a couple weeks after you hear from your ex and he hasn’t tried to contact you, it’s pretty obvious that you are under the indifferent side of the scale. What about when he’s called or has text you just to see how you’re doing or if you’re busy some night.  Those kinds of questions can determine where you stand versus his other exes.

He may have told you he just wanted to be friends and he’ll still call you to invite you to a party or just to hang out but how does he act when you’re together in those situations?  Does he punch you in the arm like a good ole buddy and convince you to have a belching contest? Or does he treat you how he did when you first started dating: with respect and tender touches that show he still cares? Pay attention to these scenarios and you may just be able to tell he still loves you.

How to Get Him Back

So you’ve determined he still loves you and you know you want to get back with him. Yet, he may still be uncertain. You can take that step forward and make the first move. Break down the wall that’s holding you back and let him know where you stand… that you want to get together for a drink sometime and perhaps talk about where he might stand.