However, any bad moves can be prevented. The following are some missteps that can be avoided as long as you know what they are.

(1) Drunk Dialing

Though the name of this mistake can come from actually being drunk on alcohol, more often than not, the drunk feeling is from emotions running high.  This means you aren’t thinking very clearly. Your thought process is on how to get your ex back, hearing his/her voice and figuring out how to make things better. When you’re thinking like this, you’re bound to regret it in the morning when you let your guard down and take that deep breath in.

Though the purpose of your call was to make the situation better, you’ll most likely end up making it worse. We act our worst when we’re vulnerable. Don’t call. Allow your ex to be the one to first pick up the phone when he/she is ready for that sort of contact again.

(2) Text Message Terrorism

This refers to all forms of communication that you can basically spam at your ex: emails, text messages, etc. This is an error because you’re not giving your ex space. Not to mention, it can be really irritating to him/her. More often than not, spamming messages at your ex is only going to cause a larger rift between the both of you.

If you’re panicking in the water already, take a moment to get your bearings and realize that if you just put your foot down, you’re going to reach the bottom of the ocean. Don’t make the mistake of trying to breathe in water.

-  Have you noticed if your ex is trying to keep in touch with you?

-  Are they doing things that would normally make you jealous?

-  Does it seem like they are upset with the way things turned out? Or is it just the other way around?

-  Does it seem like they are ignoring you or are overly happy about being out of the relationship?

-  Do you hear friends whispering about the situation? Are they trying to find out information for you but finally it’s all the more confusing.

-  Have you heard how your ex really feels about you and he/she actually detests you. In fact, each time your name is mentioned, a curse word follows.

Would you be surprised to learn that these are signs pointing to him/her want wanting you back?

Have you been contacted by your ex? If so, it’s a sign that they could want to make up with you. However, when signals are confusing, it can leave you feeling crazy as you try to find out what they are thinking. If you are trying to figure out what is going on their end, then there is actually just one thing you need to see to know if you still have an opportunity to get back with your ex.

Look to see if your ex reacts with emotion to the mere mention of your name and/or your actions.

Is there a thin line between hate and love? Yes. However, those feelings of jealousy, hate and disrespect still point toward that emotional correlation that is there linking your ex and yourself. Yes, there is still hope for the two of you.

You also need to know where to draw the line in wanting them back. Sometimes time does not heal all wounds. If you see this happen, it’s time to move on. However, if you see the sign that they still want you back by a sparks of emotion that passes their eyes, then try putting some strategies in place to give both of you another chance.

When a person breaks up with someone, they generally don’t want anything to do with that person especially if there are no more feelings or hard feelings there. However, if an ex is willing to stay in touch with you, it basically means that they want you in their lives in some kind of way. The easiest way to discover if your ex really wants you still is by observing the way he calls or handles your phone calls.

Your Ex Returns Your Call Or Calls First

Keep in mind that many people don’t talk or initiate conversations with people they don’t like. So does it seem like your ex makes the first move to call you or is happy to hear from you when you call? If so there are chances they haven’t fully accepted the breakup either. It means your ex still cares about you. If he or she is the one calling you first, then take it as a good sign that your ex still wants you too. He/She doesn’t have to pine for you but if they are still attempting to converse with you then it means that feelings you thought weren’t there actually are.

The thing to remember is that emotions can cause confusion. You are probably just as confused about your ex as he/she is about you. This is normal. If you want your ex back, all you need to know is if they still have feelings for you. Only then can you attempt to win them back over.

When a person is dumped, they may act out of sorts. This is especially true if the breakup was unexpected or quite bad. They want their ex back and who can blame them? Still, when they try to do this, they make three very big mistakes that can cost them their second chance. What three mistakes can these be?

Mistake (1) – Clinging

Everyone wants someone in his or her life. When your significant other decides they no longer want to be with you, it can be devastating. After all, you don’t want to be alone. You decide that clinging onto your ex is the best way to bring them back to you. That’s totally wrong. When you cling to your ex, you drive them further away. The breakup was designed to give a person some space so they could think about what they need and want in their life.

Mistake (2) – Drunk Dialing

Forgo the alcohol during the initial breakup period. If you drink, you are likely to do a major mistake called drunken dialing. What is this? It is done out of desperation where you lay your heart on your sleeve in a phone call to your ex usually in the middle of the night. What does this actually do for you? Nothing. What does it make you look like? A fool. It makes the person glad that they got away from you. In actual fact it does plenty of damage when you are trying to win them back.

Mistake (3) – Text Message Terrorism

It’s common to want to talk with your ex. After all, you were together for some time. However, calling them repeatedly can have devastating effects on your chances of winning back your ex. It doesn’t just mean calling your ex by phone either. It means texting them, emailing them, sending them instant messages, etc. When you do this, it’s as if you threw yourself at them each time. This is a big No-No. Just give your ex the space they need.

After your breakup while giving your ex space may be what you think is the worst thing to do, it’s actually the best thing. Space allows both of you to stay calm and plan out what to do next. Believe it or not, a break is needed from your other half from time to time. By not doing these three things, you can rest assured that your chances of winning them back are destroyed.