Are you going through a rough patch because the love of your life said they no longer want to be with you? If you are, you know that it’s tough to function on any kind of existence. The pain you feel, you know it’s real. You know it hurts to move on and you’d rather not. However, if you want to win back your ex, you have to stay away from three things that could easily become costly to you. What are these three easily done mistakes?

First, you try to pay a lot of attention to your ex. You probably think that giving them all the attention now that you are broken up is what is best. Actually, this is the last thing you need to be doing. When a breakup occurs, it’s because a person needs time away from their significant other. When you try to “throw” yourself at them, you look clingy and desperate. Something you shouldn’t nor wouldn’t want to look like in their eyes.

Second, you stop living your life because you are extraordinarily depressed. It’s okay to feel miserable and lonesome. When you have been with someone for a while, it’s normal to feel this way. However, you should never let depression take over your life. The most important thing for you to do is get out into the world and face people. Remember it’s fine to have feelings of pain but never let them rule your life.

Third, you try to fix your ex before yourself. Stop believing that if you change your ex, you can change their mind about you. For starters, you cannot change a person. Why? They have to change for themselves, just like you have to change yourself. Be sure you fix what you find is wrong with you and let your ex notice this. Once they see you changing, it gives them an incentive to change themselves.

These are the common mistakes people make when trying to win back their ex. However, with a little time, effort and certainly staying away from negative influences, you can win back your ex.