So many people flee from one relationship right into another. Everybody’s heard about being on the rebound. It makes the end of your relationship seem truly final to see your ex already settled with someone else. But is that really true? You’ll be surprised – and heartened – to know that your partner’s rebound might rebound them straight back to you. How?
In some ways a breakup feels easier to handle if you both come out of it alone. There’s balance and a feeling of suspension. You’ve both lost something but you’re both still in the same place. However, if you see him with someone else almost immediately, it’s only natural for you to feel that you’ve been left behind for good.
The truth is more complicated because in most cases a relationship on the rebound is not really a relationship at all. It’s a substitute, a response to feelings of withdrawal. Suddenly deprived of one of the most important relationships in his life, your ex needs something that feels and looks the same.
But it can’t be the same because it doesn’t include you. He will overcompensate; he will try everything in his power to convince himself that the new woman in his life can take your place. But the more he tries, the more he’ll compare her to you and on your side; you have a shared history and all the things he ever loved about you.
Stick around. Bide your time. Keep yourself accessible. There’s every chance the moment will come when he fully realizes his mistake and that’s when you can make your move. Your revived relationship may emerge stronger than ever.
