Posts Tagged ‘winning back your ex’

Move Past Your Breakup Pain

Monday, May 4th, 2009

Have you ever gone through a breakup and didn’t know how you would get going on with your life? It’s a normal reaction to something that hurts deep inside your heart and soul. You may not realize that there is hope so long you keep moving forward when dealing with the breakup pain. The pain will not only ease but you have a good shot at winning back your ex if you so desire.

Should you be in this sort of situation right now, you are not alone. Many men and women are scared to face the days alone. When you are told that your significant other needs to take a break from you, you are likely to be panicky and wonder how you can keep them beside you.

Problems for each couple may not be the same but they are still problems destroying a relationship. However, only you and your ex have the power to fix the relationship and curb the issues of the past to cramp the relationship of the future if you choose to have a second go at it. All you need is a small amount of help and you are already taking the first step. You are seeking out information to assist you.

There are things you need to understand when trying to overcome the pain and move past the breakup pain and in the attempt to get your ex back.

First, don’t keep in touch with your ex. Never believe that more attention is the way to win back their heart. It actually has the opposite effect in what you are trying to do. Why is it so?

When a breakup occurs, it’s likely the person is looking to escape what is bugging them. That’s typically the person they are breaking up with…you. Give your ex time to figure things out for themselves. Try not to see them either if you can help it although if you work together or have classes together, this can be a little tougher. Should you have to see one another, be civil and be nice. This one month period gives time for your ex to miss you and maybe even want you back. Yet, that’s not always the case so you have to do some things to improve yourself while you take a break.

What do you need to do to move pass the breakup pain? The most important thing to do is to continue on with your life. It’s easy to sit around, feeling sorry for yourself. Yet, it’s not going to give you what you want most of all. You won’t earn your ex’s respect or attention if you are weepy and whiny. Find a way to get on the saddle and ride the horse run more time. That means don’t let the pain stop you from getting what you want.

The pain you feel is real after a breakup. Yet, you should never let it stop you from improving on yourself. Do things that will grab their attention and curiosity. If you got some extra weight you wish to get rid of then do that diet you’ve been putting off. Get a haircut if you need it. Color it, style it. Do something that he or she will notice when they see you again. Once you are in tip top form, you’ll notice members of the opposite sex starting to look in your direction. With your self-improvement and all the extra attention, your ex will notice. They may even find they are getting jealous that: you are moving on with your life without them in it and that you are getting attention from members of their sex.

Sometimes people just don’t know what they have until it’s gone and when it’s gone and moved on without them, they want it back even if it seems too late. Your ex will miss you if you utilize these ideas especially if they are hearing how good you look and the attention you are getting. If you want to have a good shot winning your ex back, you need to show the strength and courage to make changes instead of dwelling in the breakup pain.

Winning Back Your Ex? 3 Mistakes You Need to Avoid

Friday, January 16th, 2009

Desperation, neediness, grumpiness, depression… these are the signs of a bad breakup. When someone is suffering from this problem, they may act in ways that just does not seem like themselves. Actually, this is normal but should be watched in case it leads to bigger problems such as drugs and alcohol. Using these substances can lead to even more devastating issues. It’s important that you know what you should not do when winning back your ex is your intention.

 

Mistake Breakups (1) – Excessive Attention

 

While your motives mean well, the damage is already done and is still being done when you shower your ex with too much affection. Remember your other half was essentially asking you for some time away by breaking up with you. Give them this space they are “asking” you for. When you don’t, you’re telling them that you are a psycho and desperate for their attention. You should know it is a bad idea and that you should avoid.

 

Mistake Breakups (2) – Drunk Dialing

 

One of the first things you need to lay off of is alcohol and drugs. When you are hit with the realization that you are alone, depression can hit. When depression hits, alcohol, drugs or both aren’t too far behind. When you use these substances, you could be susceptible to drunken dialing. It’s those late night phone calls to your ex, begging them to give you a second chance. You aren’t too sure what to say to get them to change their mind so you’ll say whatever pops into your mind and out of your mouth. This outburst of emotion does little for you and little for your “real” position. You won’t even realize you have done it until the morning or when someone tells you that you did it.

 

Mistake Breakups (3) – Text Message Terrorism

 

You don’t have to be in your ex’s presence to make matters bad. In fact, all you have to do is repeatedly call, text message, instant message, email, etc. them each day. When you do this, you basically say that you are a psycho and are stalking them. Don’t do this. If you want any chance of winning your ex back, you should stop this before it goes way too far.

 

 

5 Tips That Can Help You Get Past a Breakup

Monday, January 12th, 2009

Have you ever heard someone say that they could survive a breakup with someone that they had been with for a bit of time? Don’t believe it. Even the strong falter when they go through a breakup. A breakup has a tremendous impact on a person’s life. However, if dealt with in the appropriate manner, the person can get past their breakup and get their happiness back and quite possibly their ex too. How can they do this? By following these 5 simple tips listed below.

Tip 1 – Deal with Depression

When you are dealing with the aftermath of a breakup, it can be difficult to face people. You may feel like being alone all the time. Stop. It is important that you get together with folks that love and care about you. Seek out these people who don’t mind lending you an ear in case you need to talk. By being with them, you can heal your broken heart. If people, including your ex, see you moving past the breakup, you get credit and respect for being able to deal with it.

Tip 2 – Don’t Turn to Downers/Uppers

Some people who go through a breakup may turn to drugs or alcohol to help them deal with the feelings. Bad move. Never touch alcohol or drugs during the breakup period. If you are upset and drinking, it’s only going to get worse not better. In fact, drinking and doing drugs can lead to other destructive behavior that can keep you from wining back your ex.

Tip 3 – Remain Vigil to the No Contact Rule

Never believe that a breakup is easy when you see your ex every day. In fact, it’s the worst thing you could do for yourself especially if your goal is to win them back. Make a clean break and give yourself and your ex some space. Remember absence does make the heart grow fonder so it’s important that you keep to the rule. You can also sort your feelings out and deal with the problems that plagued the relationship on your end.

Tip 4 – Make a Plan

It’s very important that a plan is well thought out before you attempt to win back your ex. When you are planning it out, you have less time and reasons to make mistakes. Stability is a necessity when you are trying to win back your ex so keep this in mind as you make your plan. You don’t want to do anything that messes up your chances.

Tip 5 – Prepare Yourself

All the preparation of winning your ex back can be in vain. You may love your ex and she/he you but sometimes love just isn’t enough. Face the reality that the relationship just isn’t meant to be. Once you do this, you can get past a breakup and move on with your life and find someone who is meant for you.

By utilizing these five steps, you can come out a winner with the breakup. You can even win a chance to get back together with your ex and not make stupid little mistakes that can hinder any progress you have made in winning them back.

 

 

Top 3 Errors That Hurt Your Chances to Win Back Your Ex

Monday, January 12th, 2009

Whenever you have been dumped, it can be hard to take. You may panic about what you are going to do now that your significant other is no longer. You may discover that you are making some severe mistakes that could cost you a second chance with your ex. However, the mistakes were a natural reaction to your hurt feelings. It’s important to know what these mistakes are before you end up hurting your chances of winning them back.

Tip 1 – Not Maintaining Your Distance

It’s very important that distance between the both of you is given. After all, when a breakup occurs, it’s because someone needs some distance from the other person. How much distance? Well, to put it simply… you should have no contact with your ex for about a month. If you have to work with your ex, then be civil but don’t get personal. The idea is to have your ex miss you. You can’t be missed if you are still seeing each other, even if it’s not in a romantic way. Backing off the contact does help you win your ex back.

Tip 2 – Turning To Negative Outlets

Never turn to alcohol and drugs to solve your relationship problems. Not only are they unhealthy for you physically but mentally and emotionally too. Remember alcohol is a depressant but you don’t want to feel depressed during this time. It only makes the feelings much more intense and it could lead to another embarrassing problem like drunk dialing. Find more positive alternatives to relieve you of your pain and misery.

Tip 3 – Too Much Attention

You never want to give your ex too much attention. It goes back to rule number one. You have to remain a no contact rule. Why? If you are talking to each other on a regular basis, how can you miss each other? On top of that, the wounds are still fresh so it can be easy to misread something and lose your cool. You could also be in needy mode, which can be very bad. You can make another big mistake by repeatedly calling, texting, emailing, instant messaging, etc. your ex. This is called text message terrorism and it is a form of stalking.

Now these three tips aren’t the only reasons people will mess up when attempting to win their ex over. However, they are definitely culprits to the problem. Learn to avoid them and you are well on your way to winning back your ex. Before you know it, life will be good as it was once without all the drama and mayhem.

6 Tips to Follow to Win Your Ex Back

Monday, January 12th, 2009

Life can be hectic when you are in the midst of a breakup. However, your life doesn’t have to feel like or looks like a wreck to win back your ex. In fact, by following six simple guidelines, you can get past the heartbreak and move on with your life. If fail to contemplate these guidelines, winning back your ex will be very hard. They are:

Tip 1 – Don’t Be Aggressive

One of the most important things you should know is not to be aggressive when you are attempting to get back together with your ex. Instead, let your ex have the space he or she needs so they can work through their own emotions. When trying to win your ex back please do not pressure them into giving you another chance, you do more harm than good. Why is it so? When you are constantly seeing one another, you can’t move past the hurt that you both feel. This leads to increase anxiety and more anger.

Tip 2 – Use Your Pain

It’s natural to feel upset about the breakup. You wouldn’t be human if you didn’t feel the hurt. However, this pain should never control what you do and how you go about doing things. Instead, use your pain to keep you moving forward. Motivate yourself by figuring out what went wrong in the relationship.

Tip 3 – Don’t Try Change Your Ex

Many people believe that making a relationship works means to fix/change things about their ex. Never believe this statement. The only person who can change your ex is your ex. Just like you can only change things about yourself. It’s up to you to fix your own problems. If you want your ex back, only you can win them back. Not anyone else can do it for you.

Tip 4 – Don’t Believe Everything You See

If you are out on the town with your friends, don’t be too shocked if you see your ex out with someone else. The chances of the relationship being a rebound are great. You should also do a rebound relationship yourself to help you move things along. Just because your ex is seeing other people do not mean that you don’t have another chance to win them back. There is always a chance when it comes to love and relationships.

Tip 5 – Hanging on When It’s Final

Learn to know when to move on. If you know the relationship isn’t meant for a second chance but you can’t help but feel that you need to stay in your ex’s life, you may be considered a stalker. This is more so, if your presence is not wanted. Make sure you recognize that the relationship failed and that you have moved on with your life as they have done so for themselves.

Tip 6 – Recognize and Fix the Relationship Problems

Make sure that you fix the problems that plagued your relationship the first time around. If you try to get back together without fixing them, the relationship will be doomed from the start. You both do not want the same mistakes to rear their ugly heads so make sure you work them out before making a second go around of the relationship. If things return back to the way they were before, there’s a good chance the relationship will fail again.

You won’t be able to win them back if you stay depressed and hope your ex will return. Try follow these 6 tips and guidelines it does help win your ex back as well as to move on with your life.

 

2 Big Mistakes Can Cost Your Chance with Your Ex

Saturday, December 20th, 2008

Breakups can be messy, very messy. You may be prone to make bad choices, choices you wouldn’t have dared made before the breakup. There are several mistakes people make but two most important mistakes that can kill any chance of your winning back your ex include drunken dialing and text message terrorism.

Drunk Dialing – If you haven’t experienced this yourself, chances are…you know someone who has done it. What is it? It’s those late night phone calls you think will do you good but don’t. Who do you call? The person who you just broken up with, in fact. You may plead your case but you probably do so in a manner that does nothing more for them other than them going, “Yep, okay, whatever” and hang up. Never call your ex when you have been drinking. In fact, the best thing to do during those hurtful times is to not touch alcohol at all.

Text Message Terrorism – Everybody has been guilty at one stage or another of burning up the phone lines with repeated calls to someone. Text message terrorism isn’t limited to just text messaging. It means calling your ex repeatedly by way of phone, email, or text messages. When you decide to go this route, your ex is bound to change his or her number and email, regardless of the cost.

What should you be doing? Close those lines of communication for about a month. Work through your pain and anger and absolutely do not engage in negative behaviors that could lead to these two mistakes. If you are forced to see each other through work or school, be civil and kind but absolutely no personal discussions of any sort.

 

How to Win Back Your Ex

Tuesday, October 28th, 2008

Have you just been dumped by the one person who was supposedly to care and love you more than anything else in the entire world? Even if it is so, you still have the possibility of winning back your ex and can be happier than the first time around. Yet, you probably need to know just how long you need to wait before you attempt to win back their heart.

First, you need to understand that there is no easy answer to this question. However, it depends on how you view the situation but nothing less than a month is advised. A month long hiatus from any contact with your ex helps to heal wounds and broken hearts. Talking doesn’t solve all problems that were in the relationship so don’t make this your overall plan.

Instead of trying to talk with your ex during that month that you shouldn’t, get a plan going on how you want to win your ex back. The first step is to get help by reading articles intended to assist you devise a plan. Still you have to do more to win them back.

Have you ever watched a movie where the girl is sitting on the couch with pajamas on with bunny slippers and her hair full of rollers? She has a gallon of chocolate ice cream to ease her pain? Well, this isn’t the time that you should be doing this. You have a choice to spend your time wallowing in misery, the chances of you winning back your ex is nil.  Not only that but wallowing in your misery does nothing for you physically and mentally.

The best thing you or anyone in the situation should do is get out and enjoy life. Call up friends to go with to a movie, the club scene or wherever people normally hang out. You want to show your ex that life does move on without them beside you. All you need is some strength and a bit of independence to do this. Showing them that you can go on without them tells them that they weren’t everything in your world. It’s a blow right back to their ego. You’ll get them to think about why they let you go in the first place and was it the right thing to do.

How much time should you give both of you and get away from each other? To contact them: give it a month. To get them back get contact with them after a month is up.  You should start focusing your efforts to win back your ex and get over the pain.

 

Winning Your Ex Back? 4 Not to Do Tips to Follow

Sunday, July 27th, 2008

If you have ever been through a breakup, you know that life is rather difficult to deal with.

Mistakes are easy to make but the kinds of mistakes you make can destroy your chances of winning back your ex. If you really want to win back your ex, there are 4 tips to adhere by.

(1) Provide Your Ex Space
How would you feel if you had to see your ex every day? Would you miss them if you had to see them all the time?

Chances are probably not. If a breakup was not applicable, tempers can flare up, bringing more bad thoughts and feelings to the mix. Your ultimate goal to win back your ex, not give more distance to those feelings.

Give your ex at least a month of space. That means no contact of any kinds whether by mail, e-mail, phone, fax, text messages and face to face.

(2) Avoid Easy Ways to Deal with the Breakup
 When a person is depressed, it is easy to turn to drugs and alcohol for a quick pick me up. It’s the worst thing to do in fact when you are dealing with a breakup.

You’ll find yourself doing really stupid things on top of the already dumb one you are doing. You may find that you make late night desperate calls that can and usually will send your ex running for the nearest court for an order of protection.

Find a healthy project or channel instead of one that involves drinking and getting high.

(3) Don’t Bombard Your Ex with Attention
Some people believe that the only way to win back their ex is to get their attention, somehow, someway. The last thing you should be doing is text messaging, calling or e-mailing them every chance you get.

Coming of like behaving you are the psycho ex will only defeat your chances of getting them back. By giving them the space they need, they may soon learn that they can’t be without you.

(4) Develop a Plan, Avoid off Hand Thoughts
Be sure you have proven, well thought out plan to win back your ex. It can be disastrous if you go a second round with your ex without a full fledged proven plan.

This is one of the worst mistakes people tend to make when they want to win back their ex.